Have you ever wondered why your nice car and accomplished career can’t make her fall for you? How many times did you pound the dashboard of your Corvette bewailing this persistent question? You seriously need to understand that the avenue for romance is littered with road-kill hearts and unrequited love. If you think you’re unique in your loneliness, then you need to think again. There are enough dashboards pounding out there to start a global orchestra of dire distress.
Do you know that Jealousy and self-esteem issues can imprison a man just the way it does to you as a woman? I bet you never considered the saying, “no one is excused from real human emotions,” because emotions know no face, color, size or gender. There are two victims here, not just one.
A man who allows himself to fantasize about the future with a girl he hasn’t made his intentions clear to, can be likened to someone that is in relationship purgatory; the friendzone card becomes inevitable in this case. When you avoid making your intentions clear and keep hoping that one day your feelings will be reciprocated sounds like a time wasting dream because it may never come through. You don’t have to be scared of making your intentions clear because clarity is a gift and it will equally shorten your periods of fantasies if you are going to be friendzoned or rejected.
The friendzone can be a very annoying zone, especially if your feelings are guinea. We have two types of chemistry when it has to do with the act of seduction. There are sexual (or physical) and emotional chemistry. Your ability to combine the two chemistry types in their right proportion will deny you the friend zone card. The sexual attraction shouldn’t be over used before you will send a signal of ‘I need sex from you’ which might not necessarily be your intentions towards the one you love.
My boyfriend and I have been together for five years and four months. Until last month that was supposed to be the fifth month, he ended our relationship. Sometime last year, he broke up with me with the lame excuse of my libido not high enough for him during our lovemaking. That excuse infuriated me because we have been enjoying our ‘beep boop’ for three and a half years, and he was just finding out that my libido wasn’t cool for him on our fourth year in the relationship. This was the sole reason I termed the excuse a lame one. After the break up (as he demanded) in the fourth year of our relationship, I found out that I couldn’t stay without him because; I was still madly in love with him, which prompted my journey towards winning him back.
You find yourself madly in love, maybe for the first time in your life. You felt that they were your perfect match and possibly your last bus stop. While on the contrary, they don’t want to be with you or maybe did recently have a change of mind. What comes next? A break-up that has left you devastated. The only important message that your instinct passes to you is how to get them back.
I know you have been in a situation where you approached a beautiful girl but were heartbroken with the “I’m in love with another” answer she gave you. Nevertheless, you don’t expect a gorgeously looking girl not to be in a relationship nor do you? With such looks, you should always prepare for answers like that or equally get ready to compete with other guys that might equally share same interest as yours.
Age gap relationship advice is always the first thing every new date sought for before finally deciding to start a lasting relationship. The popular saying “age is just a number” is not even practiced by those that say it. Once they are cut-up in a relationship with a partner not close to their age, you will start hearing panicking queries like; what is the good age difference in a relationship? Age is not a perfect indicator when it comes to relationship. To the question of the day: should age play a role in relationship? Yes! Age can and do play an important role in a person’s personality thereby affecting his/her functions in the relationship.
“One day you’ll search for me in everyone you meet but I won’t be found.” I don’t know when the day will come. Maybe I’ll be holding the hand of someone, so consumed by the attention of another. I won’t even notice when we cross paths. That is until you say my name. I’ll be brought back to the memory of you and all we were but more than that all we weren’t. Because you never gave me the light of day. You gave me bits and pieces of some half-hearted love story that left me nothing but confused. Some love story where I loved someone who couldn’t love me back.
Our ending was so difficult because the truth was, we never actually began anything. We danced in this gray area of almost and one day and fantasies that never would become reality. But that didn’t mean goodbye didn’t break me when we finally said it. It didn’t make it easier walking away when all I wanted to do was turn back around. Leaving didn’t mean I didn’t love you but I had to learn to love myself. Pain did not come knocking first, asking if we were finally a couple. It did not discriminate against anyone. It merely went after it’s victims for a feeling. And what I felt for you was so strong, I held on longer than I should have because I did think we’d end up together one day. I think I loved you more because you never were mine but I wanted you to be. But it became a tired game I felt I was playing alone. I couldn’t do it anymore. I couldn’t keep trying to be enough because it wasn’t about being my best, what it came down to was we weren’t right for each other. Loving you as deeply as I could wouldn’t change that. Eventually, I stopped believing in us. Eventually, I realized I might have been wrong, investing so much of my heart into someone. So I said goodbye and it completely broke me. Letting you go was the hardest thing I ever did but I knew something good would come of it. Don’t text me. Don’t call me. Don’t keep following me and liking everything I post. Because I quit. If it’s a game you wanted, it’s a game you won but when it comes to love, I’m the type of person who plays for keeps. And you were never